HOW YOUR CHILD TANTRUM muffled?

Anyone who has ever been with a toddler knows so much charm and the way how they can be difficult. During this period of development that children with behavioral test of both patience and creativity of their parents. It is more or less inevitable that young children present their parents with challenging behaviors. Toddlers quickly move towards greater autonomy, both physical and social. They are in the process control of locomotion (walking, running, climbing), the control objects (pick up, throw, fall), communication (speaking, shouting, crying), and social interaction (with parents, siblings, peers). They are both very small and relatively powerless, but responsible for the belief that they are entitled to anything they want, whenever they want. Many toddler behavior can be understood in this light. On some level, they understand that they can not do anything they want without the help of parents, but they want everything now. In order to get what they want, they often use behavior handling, try to maneuver the mother to both give the object of desire and also to allow full freedom of action. In addition, they continue to be primarily motivated by the base currency of child behavior - to receive parental attention. From birth, children feed on demand and supply almost unlimited attention. Even toddlers while trying to strike on their own, they require the attention of their parents. As adults, we tend to be both frustrated and intrigued by the behavior. It is surprising to discover the effectiveness of our emotions toddlers buttons and the gusto with which they are based on them. If we limit or deny anything, they suddenly unleash their ultimate weapon - The Tantrum. Anger is the definitive expression of these conflicts and motivations of toddlers. It represents: The level of frustration toddlers feel at not being able to dominate the world because they believe they should; An attempt to manipulate the parent by doing what their desires and toddlers; An attempt to draw attention to the behavior of the mother of toddler sense can not ignore. I, for many years as a parent, teacher, and pediatrician, developed the following guidelines to help them cope and survive the toddler years: 1. HIDE buttons. Try to give your toddler that few clues as possible about the particular behavior that will drive you crazy. 2. BABY PROOF YOUR ENVIRONMENT. Establish the environment to maximize the passive controls on the behavior of young children (eg, cabinet locks, doors and other physical controls that do not need your assets in real time intervention ). This allows you to minimize the negative effects of interactions necessary to maintain the toddler and your property safe. 3. THE WORDS UNDER THE BETTER. Used in lengthy explanations for correct behavior are lost on toddlers. If anything, the time and attention in May act to reward the behavior you are trying to correct. 4. MINIMIZE YELLING. Toddlers will be free to cry and it makes you feel out of control. 5. PICK your battles carefully, and win. It makes no sense to try to correct all the little details of a toddler behavior. Your toddler has more energy to engage in behavior that you. If you choose a behavior is unacceptable, then stick to your guns. If you give in the message is that the toddler, he can get what he wants with persistence. 6. TO MEET anger, protect and back. When the inevitable crisis occurs, make sure your child is not in a position where it can hurt, then back off and to move by itself if possible. Do not reward the crisis carefully, and not to yield to the demand grew. Your child needs to develop a knowledge we all need - under the control of his emotions for himself. 7. Remember: It does not last forever. The toddler years do not come to an end. Of course, you have the future pleasures of parenting in front of you, such as adolescence - but it is for another time ....